At 26, the intelligent and beautiful Ulyana made a significant decision – she married a man who practices Islam and became his second wife.

She writes: “Previously, I thought polygamy was something out of a fantasy, wondering how one could live with a man, suppress their feelings, and be jealous of another wife all their life.

As a Muslim woman, I had long been troubled by the Sharia law that allows a man to marry up to four women. I was convinced I would find myself a man who was “different,” considering polygamy a betrayal and infidelity. But when it came time to marry, I realized my mistake and changed my opinion.

Although I grew up abroad, my father raised me strictly, adhering to Chechen traditions. Even during my student years, I did not smoke, sleep with guys, or go to discos. One day, I fell in love. I thought it was possible to love someone without physical closeness, idealizing him. Letters and messages were enough for me, but naturally, it wasn’t enough for him, so he satisfied his needs elsewhere. I endured it because I wasn’t ready for the next stage. This went on for several years.

He loved me, but chose another woman to marry. Imagine my reaction when I found out about his wedding. I knew it was the end, but hope lived within me. I was curious about who she was. He wasn’t even acquainted with his future wife; his mother chose her, considering her exemplary and religious. He planned to marry again in the future, so this didn’t bother him. He didn’t propose to me because he was sure I wouldn’t agree.

Polygamy for men is a huge responsibility, not just a way to satisfy their polygamy and boost their self-esteem. Those two years after his wedding were the hardest for me. I was afraid to let go of the feelings that lived inside, afraid to move on and build a future. Men who take such steps are full of love, tenderness, and warmth. They have so many bright feelings that they need polygamy.

Besides a man, women should have other joys in life: work, hobbies, travel, friends, children. Why do they then get so attached to men? Who allows them to dominate a person? Women should enjoy life, not waste it on empty worries and problems. After analyzing my feelings, a new man burst into my life. He abandoned his car on the roadside just to learn my name.

He wasn’t a professor or scientist; he was completely different from what I imagined. But he never let go of my hand. He had so much determination, responsiveness, and love that I melted.

He never despaired or gave up, even though he had been to war and lost his parents. He wanted to live! I found out about his first wife when I was already deeply in love with him. At first, I was upset with him, wanting to break off our relationship and leave him forever. But I realized – I respect and love this man. He is ready to take responsibility, to work harder, he values his family, and I am just driven by my vanity.

I didn’t entirely believe in it, but my feelings compelled me to act. I thought I would hurt that woman. And in general, I couldn’t understand why she loves him and doesn’t reject polygamy.

I decided to meet her. Our meeting will soon take place, and I pray it goes well. His wife is currently in Chechnya, and I await her return and our candid conversation.

Let her do what she wants, let her pull my hair or call me names, but I want to explain to her – I am not going to take her husband away. I want to earn her trust, become part of the already established family. My path is not easy, but I will go through it. In my bright dreams, we will become best friends and find common ground.”

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